WHAT IS A LOVE LETTER?? Love letters are positive affirmations and/or love poems sent to children or to moms who have been impacted by family court and/or CPS rulings that have caused disruption in their lives, or estrangement from their mothers or children. Love Letters are general messages that convey hope, expressions of affection, and validation that these children and mothers are not forgotten–but are cherished and loved. Love Letters similarly provide support to the children , Moms and the family and friends affected. For safety reasons,we strong suggest these messages remain anonymous, but we are confident that the intent and spirit of each letter will relay a powerful, and positive message when viewed.
TO SUBMIT PLEASE POST YOUR LETTER, POEM, PRAYER, SONG LYRICS, ART OR OTHER CONTRIBUTION IN THE COMMENTS BELOW.
WHY A Campaign? Love Letters to Our Children is a campaign designed to encourage Protective Moms, children , family members, friends supporters and others who have been estranged from a mother or child due to an unjust Family Court/CPS ruling. Our intention is to use these positive messages to provide a safe place where mothers and children can receive a “love letter” and offering a place for Protective Moms , children and their supporters to network, and provide support to each other.
POSTING GUIDELINES: Please post letters, poems art, song lyrics, pictures, quotes, videos or other general messages that relay a positive message, or offer support. DO NOT post any information which may identify you (if possible) most important please do not identify your minor child /children or mother including legal name, location, case details, names of those involved in your case etc Please do not use your child’s name, mother’s name or your name in this process. We suggest ,you use only initials.
You may post positive, quotes, poems, songs pictures and message for your child or mother. Please keep your posts general. We feel confident that your child or mom will feel your outpouring of love for them in their hearts.
Here are some ideas on how to create fun, meaningful letters to your child from our U.S.A Regional Director E.J Perth:
The letter you write is like a photograph–it will capture a moment in time, an image or an expression that is passed on to your child/ mother. Your letter is a gift. The quality of the letter is more important than the “quantity”; be careful on how you convey your message, avoid sending money and gifts (outside of a holiday, birthday or special event) as this creates as expectation that you may not be able to support long term. The most important part of your letter is the meaning you convey–and how the letter nurtures your relationship to your child or mother.
* Write your letter when you are calm, upbeat and feeling good. The letter should convey your love and care for your mother or child–and should be age appropriate.
Do not send a letter to your child/ mom that reflects agitation, fear, anger or other negative emotions. Similarly, do not include in your letters negative comments, remarks or sarcasm about the child’s guardian/parent or living situation. If you find that writing letters is triggering strong emotions, seek support or help. Those emotions are understandable, but should not be passed onto a child or mother.
* Create a positive environment for writing your letter–turn on your favorite music, light a candle, take time to connect with pictures or objects (toys, books, things they made, etc) that remind you of your child, pray, take a walk, etc. It may be hard, especially at first, to write. You may be struggling with emotions or on the verge of tears (I have been there myself!). By creating a positive environment, you are putting aside those emotions and/or stressors so you can focus on your child/ mom, and convey a message that is both meaningful and supportive.
* Send the letters consistently (ie on holidays, weekly, monthly, etc). You may also consider using stamps that are cute or fun, or using decorative envelopes.
* Consider poetry! Poetry is a fun, and expressive way of communicating to your child. You may want to send a humorous, or age appropriate poem for your child. Nursery rhymes are also great. Jack Prelutsky writes some humorous poems for children that may be fun to include.
Try an acrostic poem: write your child’s or mom’s name on a piece of paper, and for each letter of the name write something descriptive, funny or memorable about your child or mother.
This link creates a “Name Poem” for your child/ mom. It’s really cool, and a great way to let your child or mom know you care. When you visit the link, you answer a few questions and type it into a blank field. When you are all done, you click a button to generate your poem then print: http://ettcweb.lr.k12.nj.us/forms/_vti_bin/shtml.dll/namepoem.htm
Poetry for Children: http://www.poetry-online.org/childrens_poetry_resource_index.htm
* Send cartoons, comic strips or newspaper articles. Find subjects your child or mom may be interested in and clip articles. Or clip articles that talk about places you have visited. Thrift stores and garage sales are a great place to find articles or magazines for children and mothers.
* Send pictures. The pictures could things your children/mom is interested in (animals, places, celebrities, etc).
* Create a letter with pictures. This works well if your child is young and does not read very well. Draw pictures on the letter to tell a story, or clip pictures from magazines.
* Give your child/mom positive affirmations. It is so important to let your child/ mom know that you love them, and that you care. Affirmations boost self esteem, make you feel better and provide hope. You may also include prayers, Scriptures or other messages that are a part of your family, traditions or spiritual beliefs. For example, fortune cookies are a form of affirmations.
“The Children Lights” site gives information on how affirmations work, why they are important to a child’s development and includes tips on how to create affirmations:Affirmations are positive statements about who we are, and what we can become and experience…The key in using affirmations effectively is to have them evoke positive emotions within us.”
* Send postcards from new or unusual places.
* Send jokes, riddles or “Mad Libs”.
Aha Jokes is a great site to get jokes for kids on a variety of topics:http://www.ahajokes.com/animal_jokes_for_kids.html
Any more ideas? Please share in the comments!
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