Heart Torn in Two By M.R.M (Poetry)

Though I didn’t know you, still you grew a part of me, suddenly aware of the child within, wondering Who would you be like and how would you react…
as years gone by colored by the lies you were told, when would that truth I knew as fact unfold?
First it was my body that surrounded you so close, then it was my womb that protected you with every battered dose,
I crawled on hands and knees to try and get away, from the biological co-creator who kicked, slapped and strangled me.
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It wasn’t myself for whom I was concerned, it was the unborn child who may never know just how much hate their mother had to endure.
Did it make me strong, or was I too weak to be bold? The depths of despair of a woman pregnant with new life, only tears of fear that threatened daily that scared wife.
So whatever it is I didn’t tell you, this you must know, It was your life that saved mine with every hit I took, and I’m so very sorry for all the horrors that horrid man I call a crook.
Think what you want but someday you shall see, God gave me you, despite the violent abuse against me.
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Forever my Love goes on and my heart is torn in two, simply because of your resentment for my doing whatever I knew how to do.
Surviving is not thriving, and freedom was a fight, every day I think of you and forgiveness is my plight.
I left that man who bruised every part of who I was, and now I live to shout and fight for what is noble and what is right.
You my dear child I cry for in the middle of each night.
With Love yesterday, today and every tomorrow, Your Mom xoxo
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Dory’s Purple Shells – An Encouraging Message for Protective Mothers

“Finding Dory” (2016, Pixar) is a touching animated movie about a fish named Dory who gets separated from her parents at a young age, and goes on a journey in search of them. Guiding Dory are the memories she has held onto all of her life. Since Dory suffers from “short term remembery loss” she is guided by only glimpses of her past, and along with it, the sense of home, and feeling of belonging.

Years pass. Dory meets new friends, including a quirky fish named Nemo, that become like family. One day, Dory’s memory gets triggered, and she is compelled to find her lost family.When Dory was young, her parents set out a trail of purple shells to teach her how to find her way back home, she follows it.  So Dory sets off on an epic journey to find her parents.

Dory’s parents spent years forming trails for her to follow – up and down valleys, across distances and through the dark currents of the ocean, in the hopes that she would eventually find them.

“Finding Dory” offers a powerful message for Protective Mothers separated from their children that is familiar to those who have experienced this particular kind of pain, grief and loss.  

And for children separated from their mothers, what Dory felt may also be familiar – missing family, fear of rejection and the emotional experience of trying to piece together memories.

The purple shells are what connect Dory to her parents, and trigger the memories that eventually lead her home. The tiny shells are unremarkable in the vastness of the ocean. At times the sandy floor washes over them, and they disappear. But Dory is not alone, with the support of her friends, she finds her way.

What are your purple shells? Each parent and child has something special or shares something that links them together. It could be a physical or emotional reminder. A trinket, photograph, a prayer or special song, a drawing or toy etc

You can also create “purple shells” to honor your parent/child or to preserve special memories. Some ideas: scrap booking, releasing balloons on special occasions, lighting a candle, spiritual celebration, talking with friends/family, writing a letter etc.

Create a Path in the ways you can. Find creative ways to connect to or reach out to your parent/child if possible. Use your shells to bridge the distance. Seek support to help cope with the loss or grief.

Another message in “Finding Dory” is that Dory, and her parents, never gave up hope. The love they have for each other is unconditional. For those mothers/children who are estranged from each other, and have no contact or communication, there is a value in hope. And value in holding onto the love you share. Through love, we maintain our “purple shells”, our connection to our family – and it does not diminish with time or distance.

Also, when Dory was separated from her parents she found other ways to express her energy and love, and was able to channel her loss in a positive direction. You see that especially in her unique optimism, and her loyalty to friends. Though a loss of a parent/child can never be replaced, we can channel the expression of our love, and what that person meant to us, in other areas of our life. Or use that love to make a positive difference in the world. Some ideas: volunteer, be a friend, participate in community groups/activities, do something in memory of your loved one, fight for a cause, raise awareness, join a prayer chain etc

Final message – Never give up!

~ EJ, 2016.

Another Perspective:  

Mother, Carrie Goldman, shares her thoughts after watching “Finding Dory” with her family. Carrie’s teen daughter was profoundly moved by the movie. Carrie shares insights from her perspective of “Finding Dory” and on her daughter’s reaction to it. Finding Dory: Why It Made My Seventh Grader Cry by Carrie Goldman

 

 

“If you feel you’re sinking, I will jump right over into cold, cold water for you…” Major Lazer

“Cold Water” (2016) is an energetic, upbeat dance song by Major Lazer, featuring Justin Bieber.

The message of “Cold Water” is about how love gives us the strength to endure challenges; we can use that strength to fight for, and protect the ones we love. 

“Come on, come on
Save me from my rocking boat
I just want to stay afloat
I’m all alone
And I hope, I hope
Someone’s gonna take me home
Somewhere I can rest my soul
I need to know

You won’t let go 
I’ll be your lifeline tonight
You won’t let go
I’ll be your lifeline tonight..”

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I Love You Mommy, Follow The “arose”( Mother and Child’s Love Letter and Heart Drawings to Each Other)

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© Audrey 2016 Love Letters To Our Children

~ Child’s   heart  drawing and Love Letter to her mom.

The mother’s Love Letter reply.

Submitted by Audrey

PMA International: Love Letters to Our Children.

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SK-II : For every moment shaped by your touch (The power of a Mother’s touch)

“The enduring bond shared between a mother and child begins from the moment of her first touch, and lasts a lifetime…”

For Mother’s Day, SK-II skin care products released this beautiful video showing how the power and love communicated by a mother’s touch has nurtured her child throughout her life, “Too often we underestimate the power of touch. A caress across a baby’s little warm feet. A gentle pat of encouragement. These small intimate moments speak volumes and bring us together. The enduring bond shared between a mother and child begins from the moment of her first touch, and lasts a lifetime. This Mother’s Day, celebrate the power of touch with SK-II.”

The video is accompanied by a soothing piano melody and offers emotional depictions of milestones in the child’s life – her first steps, a dance recital, a broken heart as a teenager – at each milestone, the mothers is a source of strength and support for her child.

PMA International offers our love, prayers and support to all Hero, Protective Mothers and their Children. 

For those mothers who are separated from their children, and children who are separated from their mothers, though you may not be able to touch each other now, may the memories, and the precious mother-child bond you share, keep you close until you are together again. 

Happy Mother’s Day!

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