Dory’s Purple Shells – An Encouraging Message for Protective Mothers

“Finding Dory” (2016, Pixar) is a touching animated movie about a fish named Dory who gets separated from her parents at a young age, and goes on a journey in search of them. Guiding Dory are the memories she has held onto all of her life. Since Dory suffers from “short term remembery loss” she is guided by only glimpses of her past, and along with it, the sense of home, and feeling of belonging.

Years pass. Dory meets new friends, including a quirky fish named Nemo, that become like family. One day, Dory’s memory gets triggered, and she is compelled to find her lost family.When Dory was young, her parents set out a trail of purple shells to teach her how to find her way back home, she follows it.  So Dory sets off on an epic journey to find her parents.

Dory’s parents spent years forming trails for her to follow – up and down valleys, across distances and through the dark currents of the ocean, in the hopes that she would eventually find them.

“Finding Dory” offers a powerful message for Protective Mothers separated from their children that is familiar to those who have experienced this particular kind of pain, grief and loss.  

And for children separated from their mothers, what Dory felt may also be familiar – missing family, fear of rejection and the emotional experience of trying to piece together memories.

The purple shells are what connect Dory to her parents, and trigger the memories that eventually lead her home. The tiny shells are unremarkable in the vastness of the ocean. At times the sandy floor washes over them, and they disappear. But Dory is not alone, with the support of her friends, she finds her way.

What are your purple shells? Each parent and child has something special or shares something that links them together. It could be a physical or emotional reminder. A trinket, photograph, a prayer or special song, a drawing or toy etc

You can also create “purple shells” to honor your parent/child or to preserve special memories. Some ideas: scrap booking, releasing balloons on special occasions, lighting a candle, spiritual celebration, talking with friends/family, writing a letter etc.

Create a Path in the ways you can. Find creative ways to connect to or reach out to your parent/child if possible. Use your shells to bridge the distance. Seek support to help cope with the loss or grief.

Another message in “Finding Dory” is that Dory, and her parents, never gave up hope. The love they have for each other is unconditional. For those mothers/children who are estranged from each other, and have no contact or communication, there is a value in hope. And value in holding onto the love you share. Through love, we maintain our “purple shells”, our connection to our family – and it does not diminish with time or distance.

Also, when Dory was separated from her parents she found other ways to express her energy and love, and was able to channel her loss in a positive direction. You see that especially in her unique optimism, and her loyalty to friends. Though a loss of a parent/child can never be replaced, we can channel the expression of our love, and what that person meant to us, in other areas of our life. Or use that love to make a positive difference in the world. Some ideas: volunteer, be a friend, participate in community groups/activities, do something in memory of your loved one, fight for a cause, raise awareness, join a prayer chain etc

Final message – Never give up!

~ EJ, 2016.

Another Perspective:  

Mother, Carrie Goldman, shares her thoughts after watching “Finding Dory” with her family. Carrie’s teen daughter was profoundly moved by the movie. Carrie shares insights from her perspective of “Finding Dory” and on her daughter’s reaction to it. Finding Dory: Why It Made My Seventh Grader Cry by Carrie Goldman

 

 

An Open Letter To My Beautiful Child Who Will Always Shine (Repost)

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An Open Letter To My Beautiful Child Who Will Always Shine by Orla Kelly

Mom and author, Orla Kelly, penned a heartfelt letter to her child on that begins, “I am writing this letter to you as a permanent reminder of how wonderful you are, and to tell you that no matter what happens, you will always shine. I say this not just as your mom, but because of how much you have enriched all our lives and how you will go on to enrich the lives of others you are yet to meet…

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Orla goes on to describe how her child has touched her life, and what she loves about her child, “You speak your truth even if the world is not always ready to hear it, and you have a great awareness of what fits together in life and what doesn’t. This can sometimes get you into trouble, but the world needs speakers, dreamers, creators, inventors, explorers and you have a part of each of these…

Source: http://quotesgram.com
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And offers her wisdom on life to her child as they grow, and encounter life and its adventures,”Never lose your wonderful imagination my beautiful child, even if others may poke fun at you. They cannot see the miracles and magic unfolding in your head and they cannot see the places where your adventures take you to…

Read the Full Letter: An Open Letter To My Beautiful Child Who Will Always Shine by Orla Kelly

Visit Orla Kelly online: http://orlakellybooks.com/

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What do you love about your child? How has your life been touched by the experience of being a mother?

What insight or advice would you pass on to your child – or to another mother?

Plz post in comments below! 

Or, visit this link to submit your own love letter, art work, poem, etc to your child: HOW TO PARTICIPATE – SUBMIT A LOVE LETTER

 

“Wait for me to come home…” (Photograph by Ed Sheeran)

We keep this love in a photograph
We made these memories for ourselves
Where our eyes are never closing
Hearts are never broken
Times forever frozen still

So you can keep me
Inside the pocket
Of your ripped jeans
Holdin’ me closer
‘Til our eyes meet
You won’t ever be alone
Wait for me to come home..

Photograph” by Ed Sheeran is a heartfelt song that talks about the pain of being away from someone that you love. The “photograph” has a double meaning – it is a snap shot of a precious moment spent together, but it also symbolizes the memories we hold in our heart.

“Oh you can fit me
Inside the necklace you got when you were 16
Next to your heartbeat
Where I should be
Keep it deep within your soul..”

“Photograph” offers a powerful message about love; even though love can be hard (especially when you are apart or estranged) “it is the only thing that keeps us alive“. 

Ed Sheeran shares personal home videos in the video for “Photograph”. The song is included on his second album, X (released in 2014).

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SK-II : For every moment shaped by your touch (The power of a Mother’s touch)

“The enduring bond shared between a mother and child begins from the moment of her first touch, and lasts a lifetime…”

For Mother’s Day, SK-II skin care products released this beautiful video showing how the power and love communicated by a mother’s touch has nurtured her child throughout her life, “Too often we underestimate the power of touch. A caress across a baby’s little warm feet. A gentle pat of encouragement. These small intimate moments speak volumes and bring us together. The enduring bond shared between a mother and child begins from the moment of her first touch, and lasts a lifetime. This Mother’s Day, celebrate the power of touch with SK-II.”

The video is accompanied by a soothing piano melody and offers emotional depictions of milestones in the child’s life – her first steps, a dance recital, a broken heart as a teenager – at each milestone, the mothers is a source of strength and support for her child.

PMA International offers our love, prayers and support to all Hero, Protective Mothers and their Children. 

For those mothers who are separated from their children, and children who are separated from their mothers, though you may not be able to touch each other now, may the memories, and the precious mother-child bond you share, keep you close until you are together again. 

Happy Mother’s Day!

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One Call Away by Charlie Puth (Music, Video)

 

“And when you’re weak I’ll be strong
I’m gonna keep holding on
Now don’t you worry, it won’t be long
Darling, and when you feel like hope is gone
Just run into my arms

I’m only one call away
I’ll be there to save the day
Superman got nothing on me
I’m only one, I’m only one call away
I’ll be there to save the day
Superman got nothing on me
I’m only one call away

I’m only one call away..”

“One Call Away” by Charlie Puth. Album “Nine Track Mind”, released 2015.

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I Love You Mom Forever and Ever by E.J. Perth(Quote and Picture)

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I Love You Mom
Forever and Ever and Ever.
 
I Love My
Brother and Sister
So Much
I Will Miss Them Forever.”

~ Submitted by E.J. Perth

Quote and Pic from a Child Separated from Brother and Sister 
Due to an Unjust Family Court Order
© 2015 Love Letters To Our Children
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Looking for Echoes of Your Fingers (Quote)

This reminds me of… I have not cleaned the smudges off the windows in  the children’s bedroom because I do not want to erase their little fingerprints, and the happy memories those fingerprints contain.

Sending love and prayers to all Protective Moms and their precious Children!

xoxo

Source: http://www.ponderabout.com